When we’re young, we’re often fed a slew of guidelines, rules, and “do’s and don’ts” about relationships. As we age, we realize many of these rules no longer serve us—or never did in the first place. Once we hit the 50-year milestone, there’s a newfound freedom and wisdom that often leads us to reevaluate our beliefs about love and relationships. Here are 13 relationship “rules” you can toss out the window after 50.
You Must Be With Someone Your Age
Younger years often bring pressures to date within our age group. However, after 50, age becomes just a number. Compatibility, shared interests, and emotional connection take precedence. Love is about resonance, not the number of candles on a birthday cake. Many couples with age gaps find joy in their relationships because they bring diverse experiences and perspectives to the table. So, if you find a connection with someone younger or older, embrace it.
Playing Hard to Get Works
The games people play—why did we ever think they were fun? Playing hard to get or sending mixed signals might have been the ‘strategy’ during our younger days, but post-50, there’s no time for that. At this stage, transparency and authenticity are valued. It’s more rewarding to be genuine in our intentions and desires. Let’s leave the games for board night with friends or the grandkids. Be clear about where you’re standing and what you want, and move forward.
The Man Should Always Pay
In our younger years, the man paying for dates was seen as a norm, almost a chivalric gesture. However, today’s world is different. With many women being financially independent and the ongoing push for gender equality, the financial dynamics in relationships have changed. After 50, it’s common to see couples splitting the bill or taking turns to pay. It’s all about understanding, mutual respect, and what works best for the relationship.
You Must Have the Same Interests
While shared hobbies can be a bonding factor, having distinct interests isn’t a deal-breaker. After 50, we’ve developed and nurtured our passions and shouldn’t feel the need to give them up. It’s okay to take separate vacations or have different weekend activities. This individual growth and personal time can, in fact, bring freshness and vitality to the relationship. If possible, share some time performing different activities, to each their own.
You Need to Settle Down
There’s a societal pressure, especially when younger, to “settle down.” However, after 50, the term takes on a different meaning. It’s less about buying a house or putting down roots and more about finding stability and contentment in your relationship. For some, this could mean embracing a nomadic lifestyle, traveling together, or living separately but being deeply committed. There’s no one-size-fits-all.
Jealousy Is a Sign of Love
Young love often mistakenly equates jealousy with passion. But as years roll on, maturity teaches us that trust and freedom are the cornerstones of love. After 50, secure attachments are more about confidence in the bond and less about possessiveness. True love is wishing well for your partner, even if it means letting them have their personal space. Be confident about your relationship and trust your loved one.
You Need to Be Married to Be Committed
While marriage is a beautiful commitment, it’s not the only way to prove one’s dedication. Many couples over 50 choose to remain unmarried but are deeply connected and committed to each other. It’s the understanding, respect, and shared life goals that define commitment, not necessarily a marriage certificate. Be clear and specific about your relationship goals and where you want to be headed.
Don’t Go to Bed Angry
While it’s healthy to resolve conflicts, it’s also okay to take a break and get a good night’s sleep. Sometimes, what seems like a big issue at night feels trivial in the morning light. After 50, many understand the value of patience and giving things time. Not every disagreement needs an immediate resolution. If you need more time to think through and find a resolution to an issue, do so; don’t feel pressured to solve it right away.
Children Are a Must for a Complete Relationship
While children are a blessing, they aren’t the only path to fulfillment. Some couples choose to be child-free, while others might have kids from previous relationships. The completeness of a relationship comes from the connection between partners, shared experiences, and mutual growth, with or without children. Regardless of having your kids living with you or not, having more kids or no kids at all is perfectly fine and acceptable.
Daily Communication Is Essential
While communication is vital, it doesn’t have to be daily. Especially in long-distance relationships or when dealing with busy schedules, it’s the quality of communication that matters. After 50, many partners realize that meaningful conversations, even if infrequent, hold more weight than daily small talk. The connection you feel with your partner, even if it is not a daily conversation, is fulfilling and enough.
Physical Attraction Is Important
Physical attraction is lovely, but over time, emotional and intellectual connections often overshadow it. After 50, many find solace in companionship, understanding, and shared life values. While physical intimacy remains essential for many, it’s the heart-to-heart conversations and shared laughter that truly bind souls. You may find that a person that did not seem physically appealing at first, is really deep and has a great chemistry with you.
Relationship Work Should Be 50/50
The golden rule of relationships doesn’t always mean equal effort. There are times when one partner might pull 80% of the weight because the other is going through a tough phase. Post-50, the understanding deepens, and couples realize that sometimes, love means carrying your partner’s burdens without keeping score. Find the balance that works best for your relationship, that doesn’t necessarily need to be 50/50.
You Can Change Your Partner
Young love often comes with the desire to change or “fix” our partners. But with maturity comes the realization that love is about acceptance. After 50, many understand that true love isn’t about changing your partner, but about growing together, celebrating strengths, and accepting imperfections. Accept your partner lovingly and grow together, when you are mature, you appreciate stability more than change itself.
Age brings perspective. It teaches us that love isn’t about following a set of rules but about understanding, patience, and mutual growth. As we cross the 50 threshold, the beauty is in letting go of outdated norms and embracing the wisdom that guides our hearts.
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