Hitting rock bottom is probably one of the most stressful things that can happen to anyone. Your entire world comes crashing down around you, and you feel there is no hope or reason to live on.
You’re not alone. Though rock bottom is devastating, it’s not how your story ends; there is a way out. I want to share 13 tips with you now to give you hope and encourage you to push through and climb out of rock bottom. I hope these tips help you. If you know someone who is going through a hard time right now, share this with them.
Assess the Situation
The first step to getting out of rock bottom is to accept where you are. Acknowledge your situation and the reality that comes with it, and accept the fact that it’s a process to get out of it. When you feel calm and relaxed, take a minute to go over what happened and why it happened, and see where you can go from here.
There’s no sense in doing the “what went wrong and why did this happen to me” thing because the answers don’t matter. It happened. Let’s deal with it and move on. We need to focus on and find solutions, not focus on the problem.
While this almost sounds like a no-brainer, many people won’t reach out to anyone because of pride or for whatever reason. Many of us don’t want to ‘bother’ anyone. You’re not bothering anyone. People really do care!! Call someone you can trust just to pour your troubles out. It helps to get things off your chest and not keep them bottled up inside.
Do not be afraid to rally support for yourself. You can speak to people who you trust and who will not only listen but also help you, whether it’s a friend, family member, online community, or professional. They are all avenues of support.
Be Patient With Yourself
You’re probably going to want this to be over quickly, and you’ll want answers and solutions right now. You must take your time and be patient with yourself. You don’t have to solve everything in a day. Give it some time, and be gentle with yourself. You will get out of this. It’s going to take time.
Don’t discount the power of calming breathing. You are in a state of anxiety, anger, and stress – need I go on? Some deep and calming breathing exercises will be your saving grace. Trust me on that. Each time you feel a wave of anxiety come over, just breathe through it. Breathe in peace; breathe out stress.
Make a Plan
Sit down with a pen and pad of paper and make a plan. Figure out what steps you need to take to slowly claw your way out. Mind mapping can be very helpful. You may not know what your next steps are or what you need to do but if you sit quietly and think about it, the answers will come.
Do not beat yourself up for what has happened or where you are right now. Yes, we create our lives, but we also make mistakes. We’re not perfect. This is how we learn and grow.
Accept that you will make mistakes and sometimes falter, but rise up. Forgive yourself and focus on progress. One mistake does not make you a failure.
Get Out in Nature
Get outside as often as you can. Don’t stay in and cry your heart out forever or sit and drink your sorrows away every day. Please don’t do that. It will only temporarily make you feel good. When you sober up, the issue is still there. Get outside and go for a walk. Get some fresh air. Clear your head.
Go to a dog park and pet some dogs. Go to a pond and feed some swans or chipmunks. The simple wonders that await you are great for the soul.
Start a Self Care Routine
It’s easy to beat yourself up and feel like a loser, and I’m here to tell you you are so NOT a loser. You just hit a bump in the road. Take some time just for you to relax and honor who you are. Be gentle with yourself. Encourage yourself. Lift your spirits! It’s important to take time to care for and love yourself, no matter how hard it is to do so.
Make self-care a priority by finding activities that help boost your morale. It could be something simple, like a relaxing bath, meditation, or listening to music.
Set Some Realistic Goals
Your life won’t change with the mindset that got you to where you are right now. You have to think positively and start setting some goals. It may seem pointless to do this right now, but it’s necessary. You already know where you are now is not where you want to stay.
Set achievable goals each day, new goals or ones that you once worked towards, and develop a plan towards achieving them.
Journal Your Thoughts and Feelings
They say that writing is good for the soul, and it truly is. Get out your journal or a notepad and write out all your feelings, the good and the bad. Get it all out. Writing has proven to be extremely therapeutic.
When we write out everything that is building up inside us, it’s like purging toxicity. You’ll feel a million times lighter.
Take Time For Self-reflection
Take this time to have a look at the situation and see if maybe this thing that went wrong wasn’t for you in the first place. It could be a sign from the universe that you’re on the wrong path, and though we really don’t want to hear that, it’s true. So life basically stopped you and said, “Nope, no further for you”! Take some time and listen to your heart.
Dig deep and find out what you really want from life and what brings you joy. Spend time in self-reflection each day if you can.
Find Your Passion
Start doing more things that make you happy. It will do you no good to sit and drown in your sorrows day in and day out. While you may find it difficult to do this in the early stages of rock bottom, take small steps and keep looking. Doing things that make you happy can bring out the best in you and give you hope!
Ok, easier said than done, but you can’t stay miserable forever! You will end up in an ocean of sorrow, and it will be 10 times more difficult to claw your way out of rock bottom. Affirm positive statements to yourself. It is important to keep reminding yourself that “you can” and “you are” enough to get yourself out of rock bottom.
Start by thinking tiny positive thoughts like “This won’t last forever” or “I know I’ll get through this.” Even little thoughts will make a big difference.
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