15 Signs of Emotional Abuse That Will Cause Long-term Damage
Emotional abuse is not always immediately evident, but it can be very damaging to an individual’s mental and physical health. There are a few different forms of emotional abuse, such as verbal abuse, emotional blackmail, gaslighting, isolation, and control devices.
Some people think that just yelling and name-calling are forms of emotional abuse, and while they are, there are many more signs. Let’s get into those now. If you recognize any, or maybe even all, of these signs, please either seek relationship counseling or other help.
Constantly Criticize You
Constant criticism and undermining your self-worth is one of the most damaging signs of emotional abuse. They may call you ugly or stupid and make sure to point out flaws to make you feel bad. These hurtful words cause great long-term damage and can take years of therapy to undo.
Keep Tabs on Your Whereabouts
They don’t want you to spend time with friends and family and always want to know your where you are, who you are with, what you are doing, etc. The abuser can’t handle you going out and having fun or ‘having a life’ without them. They fear your friends may be encouraging you to leave your relationship.
Manipulation
They make you feel guilty or persuade you to do things even if you don’t want to do them. An abuser is also usually a master of emotional manipulation as well. “If you don’t do this, I’ll do this…” is a common phrase they will use to manipulate you to do what they want.
Control Your Finances
They will limit access to money or maybe even give you an allowance. If you have gone shopping and bought something nice for yourself, the abuser may even demand to see receipts and be angry with you for spending money on yourself. Some abusers will take your debit/credit cards and make you have to beg them to get them back.
Guilt Trip You
They make you feel bad for things that aren’t your fault, or they blame you for things that happen in the relationship. The abuser has trouble taking responsibility when things go bad, so that they will blame everything on you.
Isolate You From Friends and Family
They might limit your contact with others or create situations where you can’t see or talk to anyone. Abusers don’t want you to have fun or be away from them. Not only that, much like #2, they don’t want you to be influenced by your friends or family to end your relationship.
Belittle You
They might say that you’re overreacting or being too sensitive. The abuser will never be compassionate to your feelings or try to understand them, always making you feel like your feelings don’t matter and are unwarranted.
Bully You Into Fearing Them
They might use threats or intimidation tactics to control you. He/she may use bully tactics on you to keep you in fear mode. “If you do this, this is what’s going to happen to you…”. Verbal threats are a way of controlling you and making sure you never leave and always obey them.
Use Your Past Against You
They might use things you’ve done in the past to make you feel guilty or use them to justify their own behavior. Abusers are notorious for repeatedly bringing up your past to show you that you aren’t perfect and you are no good/unworthy/dumb/a failure, etc.
Gaslighting
They might make you question your perception and deny things they’ve said or done. He/she will go to great lengths to make you believe that you are wrong and they are right, no matter what. You will eventually second-guess your every move and word.
Withhold Intimacy as Punishment
They might withhold intimate evenings from you as punishment for not obeying them or doing something you wanted to do but they are adamantly against it. The abuser might also be somewhat aggressive intimately as punishment as well.
Humiliate You
Especially in front of your friends. They thrive on embarrassing you and making you look bad. This gives them power and makes them look good.
Make Threats or Give You Ultimatums
They might threaten to hurt you, themselves, or others, or they might present an ultimatum that forces you to do something you might not want to do. He/she will do this when they feel threatened. If you plan on leaving, they will try anything to convince you to stay, especially threatening you.
Blame Their Behavior on You
They might tell you that you made them act a certain way or that you’re the reason for their behavior. “It’s all your fault I’m drinking…”. They simply cannot accept responsibility for their actions and are always looking to blame someone else.
Unsupportive
When someone is not supportive of your successes and achievements and may even undermine your confidence, it could be a sign of emotional abuse. They are threatened by your success, goals, dreams, and desires because they are certain that if you improve your life, you will eventually leave them.
Conclusion
Emotional abuse can take a very heavy toll on anyone, emotionally, mentally, and eventually physically. If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, seek help.
Remember that you deserve a healthy and positive relationship, and you need to prioritize your well-being.
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