Life is a funny thing. You’re born into the world, you go through life learning new stuff daily and facing challenges, you suffer from stress and anxiety, and then you die. It doesn’t come with an instruction manual. We’re all just winging it and doing the best we can with what we know. However, it’s essential to remember that life is also full of opportunities, growth, and learning experiences. By acknowledging this, we can transform our mindset and take charge of our lives.
Here are 25 brutal truths about life that will change how you think and live.
Forgiveness Will Set You Free
Holding onto past hurts, keeping grudges, and staying angry at people from your past who hurt you only hurts you and damages your mental, emotional, and physical health. The person who hurt you doesn’t care about you or how they hurt you or your emotional health, so why bother holding on to all this anger? Do yourself a favor, forgive them, and set them free. Do it for you, not them.
Kindness Always Comes Back Tenfold
When was the last time you passed a homeless person on the street and didn’t stop to give them a dollar or offer to buy them a coffee? These tiny and meaningful acts of kindness will come back to you tenfold without you even realizing it. Kindness costs little and makes a world of difference. Do more kind things for strangers.
Put Yourself First
You are number 1. Not your kids, your husband, your parents, or your boss. You. The old saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup” is not taken seriously enough. You have to do what’s right for you before you do anything for anyone else. Your happiness is #1, your health, you.
Money Does Not Buy You Happiness
Contrary to popular belief, money does not buy you or guarantee your happiness. What it does is make life a little easier and put a temporary bandaid on problems and unhappiness. You can have all the money in the world and still be miserable, sad, or depressed.
You Only Get One Life
We forget that part about life. It’s the only one we have. It’s up to you to make the most/best of it. It’s up to you to stop wasting days and start chasing adventure, opportunities, and all the shiny things you see. Start saying YES to life more and NO to mediocrity. You don’t get a second chance.
Life is Not Fair
Bad things happen to good people, bad people, every one of us. Life throws hard curveballs, and we were never taught how to play that game. It’s important to learn how to take the bad with the good. After every storm, the sun always shines. Breathe through the hard times.
Time is Precious
The trouble is, you think you have time ~ Buddha. You do have time; you just don’t know how much time you have. It could be 100 years, could only be 25. Don’t take life and time for granted. Say yes to life and adventure. Say no to anything and everything that doesn’t bring you joy.
No One Cares About Your Life
Don’t get me wrong, people care. They care about a lot of things, but they don’t care as much about your life as you do. Your life is important to you and you only. How you live it and what you do with it depends on you, how much you truly care about it, and what you do to make it the best life.
The Past Belongs in the Past
Let go of the past and stop bringing it up, especially to those who hurt you. It doesn’t matter anymore. Closure doesn’t always come. It’s up to you to leave the past behind, take the lessons you learned, and move forward toward a brighter future. Hanging on to the past will keep you stuck there, and you’ll never be happy.
You Can Start Over at Any Age
Age is just a number. Don’t let it stop you from starting over again or trying something new in life. You’re only as old as you think and feel. Remember, Colonel Sanders opened up KFC at 40 years old. The writer of this article started her online business at 52 and is now a 6 figure blogger.
You’re Stronger Than You Think
Oftentimes, when we go through something, we are sure we can’t handle it or won’t be able to make it through. You always will and do. You’ve survived 100% of the things life has thrown at you so far. Stop thinking you’re weak. You’re not. You’re stronger than you think, and you can get through anything.
Everyone Fails at Something
No one is perfect, and failure is part of growth. How will we learn and try new things if we don’t fail or make mistakes in life? And don’t think you’re a failure because something didn’t work out the way you planned. You tried, but it didn’t work; you move on and keep trying. Don’t let failure stop you from trying new things.
Everything Happens For a Reason
Unfortunately, we may never know the reasons things happen, especially bad things. Instead of asking yourself, “Why me”? start asking, “What can I learn from this”? We are not in control of the things that happen in our lives, but we are in control of how we react to them.
Only You Can Make You Happy
Happiness is an inside job. You can try to buy happiness by purchasing nice things, but that’s temporary happiness. Things wear off in time. No one or nothing can or will make you happy, ever. That’s your job. It’s up to you to find and do the things that bring you joy.
No is a Complete Sentence
Stop saying yes to everything, especially things you don’t want to, and start saying NO without explanation or apology. Saying no sets boundaries for people who have taken advantage of you in the past. Also, when you say no, it gives other people a chance to say yes! Stop being a people pleaser and start pleasing yourself instead. Self-care is not selfish, it’s mandatory.
Everything is Temporary
The good and the bad. Nothing lasts forever, not even life. The people we meet, our relationships, our jobs, where we live, the things we stress about, and the situations we get in that we feel are hopeless. It’s all temporary. When you realize this, you just may enjoy life more.
You’re Not Stuck Anywhere
You’re not a tree. You’re not stuck anywhere, even though you think you are. You have freedom of choice, and your life is up to you. If you want to change jobs, cities, countries, relationships, whatever, you absolutely can. If you’re not happy where you are, make a plan to uproot and start doing more things that bring you joy.
Things Can Change in a Split Second
Things can go from bad to good or good to bad in the blink of an eye. The company you work for could close up, your house could burn down, or you could win the lottery and find the job of your dreams. Anything can happen in a split second. Don’t take things for granted or think the bad is your new reality.
Patience Obtains All Things
It really does. We all want instant gratification, but at the end of the day, it’s patience that wins. Learn to practice being in the moment and letting things unfold the way they are meant to. If you struggle with patience, try some deep breathing exercises. Think and pause before you act or speak.
Gratitude Brings Joy and Miracles
Count your blessings, not your problems, and watch how life gives you more things to be grateful for. It’s so easy to complain about the things in your life that we often forget to be thankful for all the good in our life. Try that instead and watch miracles happen.
Your Thoughts Control Your Life
Believe it or not, it’s true. If you continue to think you’re dumb and worthless, your life will reflect that. If you think you’re amazing, smart, and successful, well, your life will reflect that too. Watch your thoughts, and next time you have a negative thought about yourself or your life, stop it and think 3 positive thoughts.
Your Life is a Result of Your Choices
This might be a tough pill to swallow, but where you are today, right now in your life, is a result of all the choices you’ve made up to this point. If your life isn’t going great, you can choose to make changes. No one else can do that for you.
You Can’t Control Everything
Actually, there are only 2 things you can control: your life and the way you react to things/people in your life. That’s it, that’s all. Learn to let go and trust the process. Things will happen how they are meant to happen, and you can’t control that. People will act the way they want to, and you can’t control that either. Learn to control how you react.
Hurt People Hurt People
People will lash out at you, bully you, verbally, mentally, emotionally or physically abuse you and none of that has anything to do with you. When people are hurt, they do the first thing they know how to do, hurt others. Don’t hurt them back. Send them love. They need love and kindness, not more hurt.
Revenge is Immature
Trust Karma. Revenge is for the weak and the weak-minded. Strong people with integrity don’t seek revenge. Though we all want to lash back at whoever hurt us, at the end of the day, it’s a bad idea. Karma works in mysterious and wonderful ways.
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