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How to Get Through a Midlife Crisis – 6 Tips to Help You

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Are you there, right now? Are you starting to feel ‘funny’ like something in your life just isn’t right? You could be starting your midlife crisis. Today I want to talk about how to get through a midlife crisis so you can chill out and enjoy life.

And let’s be honest here, this is no fun. Amirite?

You have a million questions and a million different thoughts and feelings are going through your mind and soul, you have no answers and you’re starting to feel a little scared. I mean, you’ve never felt this way before!!

I totally understand where you’re coming from.

Not only that, our bodies are changing, things aren’t as perky as they used to be, menopause has kicked in for some, there are so many confusing changes, none of them we like.

(and because I’m probably gonna say midlife crisis a million times in this article I’m going to use the letters MC here and there)

Am I having a midlife crisis?

Some of us may be experiencing all these odd different feels and not even be aware that what they are actually going through, or starting, is a MC. So if you’ve stopped and asked yourself lately, “am I having a midlife crisis”?, chances are, you probably are.

And let’s be clear about something, a MC doesn’t necessarily begin at 50 like most people think. You can actually have a midlife crisis at 35. Yup. I said. It’s true.

Let’s have a look at some of the signs and symptoms of a MC before we get into how to get through it.

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Midlife crisis symptoms for women

I think before we move on it’s important to know what the midlife crisis symptoms for women are. Now keep in mind they will be different for all women. And there may be symptoms not listed here. If you have any other ones, share them with us below in the comments section!

Some symptoms for women having a midlife crisis

  • sudden anxiety, sadness and/or depression
  • lack of clarity
  • feelings of frustration
  • drastic changes in behaviour
  • feeling like life is meaningless
  • low self worth

Now I get that other things can cause these feelings but if you are feeling any of those lately, then you’re probably at the door of your MC.

So when does a midlife crisis happen?

Well to be perfectly honest, mine happened right around 52. I had just left my abusive relationship, had lost everything and had hit rock bottom. On my climb out I had to go through all those feelings and make the tough decision to reinvent my life.

You could probably say that hitting rock bottom was the beginning of my MC. And I’m kinda glad it happened like that too!

But for others, when does a midlife crisis happen? That’s a good question. It doesn’t just happen at 50 and you could start your midlife crisis at 35 so you have to know there’s no definitive answer or age for this question.

According to Wikipedia.com

A midlife crisis is a transition of identity and self-confidence that can occur in middle-aged individuals, typically 45 to 65 years old.

Wikipedia.com

And Healthline.com says there is a 10 year leeway on either side of that. So anywhere between 35 and 75.

Geesh. None of us are safe!

How long does this last?

This is a question, again, that doesn’t have a definitive answer. It really all depends on how long you want to prolong it, nurse it, if you will, or how soon you want to start dealing with it and learning how to get through it.

So how long does a midlife crisis last for?

Well it could last 2-5 years. That all really depends on you. It could last a hell of a lot longer if you don’t do anything about it. How long do you want to go through it is the better question here?

Let’s get into how to get through a midlife crisis. I’ll share a few simple steps with you that totally worked for me.

How to get through a midlife crisis

Here are 6 simple ways to get through your MC. If you have any other methods that have worked for you please share them down below in the comments with the other readers!

1 Journal your feelings

Writing is very therapeutic. When we express what’s inside of us, down on paper, it allows us to release all those thoughts from inside so they don’t consume us and keep us stuck or sad.

When you’re done writing you can sit back and reread what you wrote and sometimes that can help us rationalize our feelings better. We can make a wee bit more sense out of them.

2 Try meditation

If you don’t already, meditate. If you don’t think you can or you don’t know how, just sit with some nice guided meditation (you can find several on YouTube like this one) and breathe.

Just calm yourself down when your anxious thoughts arise and stop them before they turn into more like sadness and depression. Our thoughts have power to cripple us so you need to get to them before they do that to you.

3 Make small changes

If there is something that’s calling you to do, then do it. Even if it’s only a small change. When we make these changes, this is how we learn more about ourselves and embrace our brave side.

When you ignore your intuition or your heart’s calling, you will become even more frustrated and your anxiety will happen more often. Just listen to your gut and embrace change.

4 Talk to a friend

Remember you’re not alone here. You probably have one or more friends who are going through or went through the same thing. Ask them how they coped/are coping and see if they have techniques that worked for them.

It’s best to have someone you can talk to especially when you are having moments of sadness or depression. They will help you by sitting and listening or offering gentle advice or loving words.

5 Daily gratitude

Take time each day to be grateful for some of the amazing things in your life. It’s easy to fall into a self pity ‘whoa is me’ trap but that can be crippling too.

When you are feeling low or sad think of a few things you have in your life that you are really grateful for. It could be things like your family your house or even just for seeing the sunshine or some pretty birds flying around. Gratitude is very comforting.

6 Get outside/exercise more

It may sound super cliche but fresh air does clear the mind and helps you see and think about things clearer. And it’s no secret that exercise is great for sadness and depression.

Sometimes we overlook even the simplest little things that can help us and there’s nothing more healing than the great outdoors!

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Making the rest of your life the best of your life

I know what you’re going through but I also want you to know that you absolutely can make the rest of your life, the best of your life.

The last 8 years for me have been amaze-balls. I didn’t realize that my 50’s were going to be some of the best friggin years of my life so if you are feeling down or frustrated, please know, the best is yet to come. As long as you embrace midlife, listen to your heart and embrace change!!!

mad love

ox iva xo

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