One thing I hear a lot of people say is “Oh Iva you’re so strong and brave.” Maybe. But fact of the matter is, my life isn’t always sunshine and lollipops and I too have to figure out ways to get through hard times, because yes, I go through hard times too.
I mean, I am human. I’m not perfect and neither is my life.
Just because we are all trailblazing women (that means you reading this too!) doesn’t mean we are immune to difficulties and challenges. It’s the way in which we get through hard times that makes us the strong women we are today!
Trailblazing women forge ahead
Something that is common amongst trailblazing women is the ability to forge ahead no matter what might be going on in their life. Although there will be time for rest, it’s also true that as a modern woman you are going to need to know how to blaze ahead when things get tough.
Life will throw all sorts of problems at you, and you need to work out what you are going to do to get through them in one piece.
It’s not always pretty and it’s not always easy, but we all know that getting through hard times not only makes us stronger but it also inspires people around us and gives them the confidence they need to overcome obstacles too!
5 Ways to Get Through Hard Times
Below are 5 ways to get through hard times so you will be able to not only endure them but grow from them as well. Remember, trailblazing women and mentally strong people don’t quit, don’t give up, don’t throw in the towel. We face tough times head on!!
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1 Build Resilience
One of the ways to look at these situations is that they are simply an opportunity to practice being resilient. In essence, having difficult things happen to you means that you are going to be able to build your resilience in the process, and that is something that will prove to be very important indeed.
By building resilience, you are going to know how to cope with similar situations more effectively in the future.
In a way, it is valuable to experience some hardship early on, as it allows you to build up a thicker skin, and that can serve you in some pretty useful ways. So next time something tough happens, view it as the opportunity that it truly is to build more resilience and become stronger.
2 Deal With The Process
Whatever the situation might be, you have to understand that each situation or hard time will need to be dealt with in a totally different manner.
Some of these can be those administrative choices you have to make even in the midst of a difficult situation – like when you need to choose the right memorial stones for a funeral – and sometimes it will be more along the lines of physical or emotional processes you need to go through in order to process what’s going on.
With all of these, you need to ensure that you are dealing with whatever comes in the way that is most important. While one way of getting through hard times may work for some things, it may not work for everything. You’ll need to adapt.
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3 Remember: Bad Times End
If you are wondering what kind of psychological stance you can take to get through the tough times, remember that all bad times do end, no matter what. It’s not really that you have to force them to come to an end – that is going to happen whatever you do – but you need to find a way to look after yourself in the meantime.
This means that you will have to exercise some degree of patience and resilience while you wait for the bad times to come to an end. Note that this doesn’t mean sitting back and allowing life to do whatever it wants with you – it’s just that, whatever else happens, the current trouble you are going through will pass, and you will have brighter days ahead again.
4 Keep Busy
For trailblazing women keen to make it through some of the tougher times, it’s a good idea to remember the importance of keeping busy.
Now, you have to be careful here not to overdo it, as it is possible to keep yourself so busy that you are going to ignore how you actually feel. Repression is not your friend. But you should aim to keep busy enough that you are at least not dwelling too much on what might be going wrong in your life.
By doing that, you are going to find that getting through hard times is a lot easier, and it will seem as though the tough time will end much sooner.
5 Stay Social
This is time when it’s important to have people around you who care for you, and to make the most of them as you go through your difficult times.
If you have a group of friends around you, make sure that you are reaching out to them as necessary, and telling them how you feel about what you are going through. That is going to make an enormous difference to how easily and quickly you get through your situation, so it’s something that you should definitely bear in mind.
Going through tough times alone
While all those 5 ways to get through hard times are really very effective and powerful, the last one may be hard for some. Especially in this time while we are quarantined or isolating. Unfortunately, some of us are going through tough times alone and that can be hard and stressful.
You can still call friends or see them via your computer on Zoom or Facebook messenger chat. No one should ever have to be alone while dealing with difficult issues. There is always help around.
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Whatever you are going through, know that you don’t have to be alone or go through this alone. And at the end of the day, remember, everything is temporary-the good and the bad.
peace and love
ox iva xo