Do you ever come across someone and after spending some time with them your first thought is “wow, what a confident person!”? Like they ooze self-confidence.
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It’s not just that they are confident, they have this incredible mental strength that sets them apart from the rest. But what gives them that mental strength?
I’ll share with you some things mentally strong people do that you’re probably not doing but you most certainly can do!!
So how do you build mental strength?
Well, it’s not as hard as you think it might be. Honestly, anyone can build mental strength as long as they have determination, patience, and focus. Do you have those 3 things? If not, you can learn them too!
The one very important thing we first have to do is let go of the person you used to be. Sorry, not sorry, but you gotta change some things.
Becoming a mentally strong person is something you will need to continually work at as well. You simply just can’t take a course, read an eBook and then declare to everyone around you “LOOK AT ME AND HOW MENTALLY STRONG I AM NOW”!!
Ya, it doesn’t quite work like that.
You have to continue to work on it. Just like self-confidence or self-esteem. You have to maintain those. You have to continuously work on keeping your self-confidence and your self worth high.
How Can I Become a Mentally Strong Person?
The million dollar question. Don’t we all wish we could be mentally (or maybe even more physically stronger) stronger? So many people ask me this question.
“Iva how can I become a strong person like you”?
Well first of all, I wasn’t born with mental strength. To be honest, I’ve always been a bit of a wimp. But then I got tired of being walked on and disrespected all the time and hanging with people who were just no good for me.
I decided what kind of life I wanted to live, how I wanted to live it, and what type of people I wanted to live it with. I decided to become a strong person.
You have to decide that you are ready for some serious changes in your life. You have to decide that the life you have right now doesn’t make you happy or that you yearn for more. Whatever more is for you.
You have to also realize that anyone can become a stronger person. It’s up to you to want to be so. There are no magic pills or secret formulas.
You just do it.
What makes a person mentally strong?
I’m going to give you a list of 9 things that make someone strong but to be perfectly honest, controlling your mind and retraining your brain are some things that make someone strong.
All our decisions are up to us. What we do, how we do it, who we do it with, etc. It’s all on us. One of the things that make someone strong is simply that they know how to retrain their brain to become more optimistic, more confident, and more strong.
None of this is rocket science. Anyone can do it.
9 things mentally strong people do
In order to become mentally strong we have to understand some of their habits. I have listed 9 here but there are probably a million more. I found these 9 to be pretty important and actually quite easy to adopt, like right now!
And then I want to list a few things mentally strong people don’t do. You’re gonna love that one.
In no particular order of importance, here they are:
1. They aren’t set back by mistakes
Mentally strong people try things and challenge themselves. They’re aren’t sure if something will work the first try and they’re ok with that. They’ll keep at it until they either come up with a better plan or realize it simply won’t work and move on to something else.
And they’re ok with that too!!
2. Taking big risks is ok
They realize they may have to take risks, really big risks, in order to achieve something and they will.
It’s not that they aren’t afraid of taking risks or stepping out of the comfort zone, they just realize that it is something they MUST do in order to attain/learn/achieve something.
3. Take responsibility for everything
Not everything works and they aren’t right all the time and sometimes they mess up. They know this. They aren’t perfect.
They will admit to wrongdoings and take full responsibility for a situation if it was their fault.
4. Look at the whole picture
They will take a situation or issue and see both sides of the problem before they make a decision or form an opinion. They are not quick to judge or throw a fit.
They will take a step back and look at the whole picture before a conclusion or resolve is reached.
5. Practice kindness
If someone is being mean, rude or ignorant to them or anyone else for that matter, they won’t lash back with the same rudeness. They will kill someone with kindness, smile and walk away.
They know that hate doesn’t cure hate, love does. Mentally strong people know this. They can control their emotions in tough situations.
6. Ask for help or admit they’re wrong
In order to have great mental strength you will know when you have to swallow your pride and either ask for help or admit you’re wrong. Swallowing your pride is a great character trait for many people and something you should practice doing more often.
People will tend to have more respect for you when you can do this.
7. Don’t quit when the going gets tough
Let’s face it, we all have moments where we want to throw in the towel and walk away from something that is causing us too much frustration. One of the most important things mentally strong people do is ‘not quit or give up’.
They keep at it and learn what they need to in order to move ahead. Remember, not everything is going to go our way. And that’s ok.
8. Maintaining boundaries
They have no problem setting a strong and firm boundary line around themselves.
They know it’s totally ok to say no to others and yes to themselves. They aren’t people pleasers. They are wise and self respecting. They know that their mental health and happiness comes first before anyone else’s.
And, they don’t put up with anyone’s crap. Ever.
9. Help others succeed
They know life isn’t a competition and the only person they are in competition with is the person they were yesterday. They understand that we are all in this together and there is great strength in numbers.
They want others to succeed too.
They cheer people on, lift them up, encourage them and do whatever it takes to help another person.
Mentally strong people just know
They just know. Most mentally strong people use to be really weak. Yup. That’s how and why they finally took time to build their mental strength. Being weak didn’t interest them anymore.
They just know that being weak is a terrible way to live life. They just know that they deserve respect and they deserve to be happy.
They just know that inner peace is more important than being right all the time. They know that they are tired of being treated like a doormat.
Being walked all over didn’t interest them anymore
Always feeling like a failure didn’t interest them anymore.
They knew something had to change and that something was them. That’s where building mental strength begins.
When you finally decide you don’t want to be weak anymore!
Becoming mentally stronger will take time
And more time and more time. It’s a work in progress and as you grow stronger, you will find that you love yourself more and you love others more too. You become more forgiving and more accepting.
Your whole mindset changes and it’s a really beautiful thing. I think the best part of becoming mentally stronger is that you just have a lot more self confidence and finally realize your self worth and you never settle for less again.
Some tips on becoming a mentally strong person
So how can you become a mentally strong person? Well if you followed this list above and still need more info, here are a few more tips to help you become a mentally strong person.
You can be just about anything you want to be, but you have to decide that you want it. Anyone can become mentally strong but it takes practicing new daily habits and lots of work.
Here are a few things that helped me become stronger:
- guided meditations to release anger and fear
- journaled about gratitude
- listened to motivational speakers
- wrote out my feelings to release them
- practiced saying no to people
- stopped sweating all the small stuff
You might like this video I found on YouTube the other day. This guy nails it.
I also really enjoyed this article that outlines a few more things mentally strong people do. You might like it too!
6 things mentally strong people don’t do!
I thought you might like this list too.
- belittle others
- get angry over little things
- give up
Those are just a few things though I’m sure there are a million more things mentally strong people don’t do. Don’t worry if you do any of those things. You can change all that!
Like, starting today.
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Peace and love
ox iva xo