Do you remember being 25 and thinking “Oh crap 50 is so old and horrible?” I kinda do. I also kinda remember at 35 and 45 thinking “Oh snap 50 is coming soon! Eeeeep!” What is life over 50 gonna be like?
And then 50 showed up and I was like, “Oh, wow that happened fast. Now what?” What happened after that? My attitude changed….a LOT! Life after 50 turned out to be way better than I expected.
You know, my life has had many twists and turns. Many frustrating moments and many wonderful moments. TONS of *what the heck* moments and just as many *this is freakin’ awesome* moments but I have to tell you, in all honesty, 50 kinda scared me.
I was certain that by the time I hit 50, it was all gonna go downhill from there. Yup, I thought that. I truly believed that life after 50 was going to be bleak, boring, and depressing.
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Finding purpose in life after 50
50 came. My ex had a big 50th bash for me. I drank myself into oblivion and prepared for the end to come. The end of a fun youthful life as we know it. I spent the next little while wondering what the rest of my life was gonna be about.
What will it all be for? What am I supposed to do? What haven’t I done yet, the bigger questions for me were, “Is it too late? Did I miss the boat?”
Whatever boat that was. I needed to start finding purpose in life. I had none.
What did happen, as time passed, was that I became more aware of who I was, what I had done so far, and what I still needed to do.
One of the biggest things, which proved to be the most life-changing thing, that I had to do was leave my emotionally abusive relationship. I knew that if my life was going to change for the better, I had to be brave and leave. And halfway into my 50th year, I did just that.
Transforming life after 50
I started figuring out myself and my life. For the first time in my life, I was on my own to find out who I was and what was I here for. Age suddenly didn’t matter. I was too wrapped up in getting my life together and discovering my path, my purpose, my passion, and living.
I really just wanted to start living. Something I feel I hadn’t been doing.
51 came and then 52, and then the numbers suddenly didn’t really matter anymore. Life after 50 was proving to but much more exhilarating than I had anticipated.
I was finally living and having fun and being me. I was finally me and enjoying this life. The more I lived and enjoyed, the younger and more youthful I felt. I didn’t feel 50-ish anymore. Some days I felt 16, others 25, and I think some days I may have even felt and acted 10!
Life was good. Life was so good and it just didn’t matter how old I was.
I traded in my 25+ yr hairstyling career and became a freelance writer. I totally transformed my life after 50. A complete overhaul if you will and it was amazing.
You might really enjoy this semi viral article I wrote recently about how to start over at 50.
Can you find happiness after 50?
Oh hell ya!! This is what I did after I left my relationship.
Off I went to do the biggest baddest and bravest thing I have ever done in my life. Sold my entire life, packed up two suitcases and bought a one-way ticket to Guatemala. Why?
Because it was time to live, I mean really live, and NOT care about how old I was or that the clock was ticking.
It was time for Iva to go be free and embrace this gift of life that, for far too long, she had taken for granted, bitched about, was afraid of, and even, once or twice, thought about ending.
Yup it was time to enjoy life.
I don’t know if I was looking for happiness or if happiness found me but I’ll tell you one thing for certain, you can find happiness after 50. Ridiculous awesome mind-blowing happiness.
You might really like this inspirational and wonderful read by Maria Leonard Olsen. She nails so many things in this book!
How to live your best life
If you really want to know how to live your best life after 50 it really all starts by changing one thing: Your attitude.
I had to face fears, pull up my big girl panties and get on with life. I had to change my attitude from *life is horrible and I’m too scared to do anything* to *hey life, let’s rock this*!
Does attitude matter? You bet!
You can argue with me ’til the cows come home and you’ll always be wrong. When your attitude changes from bad to good your whole world changes.
When you go from *I’m too old to do this* to *Weeeeeeeee I wanna live!!!!* the world opens up and shows you exactly what’s out there. it doesn’t matter if you’re 25 or 75. It’s all in your attitude.
I got ballsy and curious. I took risks and laughed in the face of danger.
I started doing things that I didn’t do enough of:
- having fun
- playing with kids
- giving, sharing, and loving more
- not caring what others think
- facing fear and going on adventures
Life was waiting for me and it didn’t care how old I was.
I found this awesome video on YouTube and I think you’ll really enjoy it! Take a few minutes to watch. It’s quite the eye-opener.
Living Your Best Life After 50
Life after 50 can be the absolute best part of your life. So many think it’s all downhill after 50 but I strongly disagree. We have so much wisdom and freedom at this stage of our lives. It’s impossible to NOT be happy!
I’m going to share 10 tips with you to help you live your best life after 50. Thank me later!
- Forget your age. It’s just a number and means nothing.
- Do things you’ve always wanted to do. Stop being afraid.
- Face all those fears you’ve had all your life.
- Learn something new.
- Travel solo.
- Step out of your comfort zone to make new friends and explore the world.
- Go and volunteer at an organization that calls to your heart.
- Do something nice for yourself every day.
- Look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re beautiful, daily!!
- Spend time with people 10 or 20 years older than you to gain encouragement.
Do any or all of these 10 things and watch how life after 50 will become magical and amazing.
Reasons Why Life After 50 is Magical
I could list a million reasons here but I’ll keep this list to 10. Here we go, in no order of importance.
- You can do what you want
- You’re close to getting senior’s discounts
- You don’t care what people think of you
- You tend to have more compassion towards others
- You have lived a great life and have awesome stories to tell
- Your children are finally gone (or should be close to)
- You’re close to retirement or already have retired which means,
- You have more free time to nap or travel
- You have learned to love yourself and set boundaries (people respect you more!), and
- You can wear what you want when you want, however you want, and you don’t care!!
Life After 50 is more beautiful than you can imagine
I look in the mirror and never once think OMG I’m getting old. I look in the mirror and see a youthful glowing spirit. I see a woman who, at one time, was desperately afraid of getting older and dying, to now a woman who feels and acts like a kid and is living life to the absolute fullest.
So what keeps me young? It’s my youthful spirit, I say. It’s my zest for life. It’s me taking care of myself and enjoying this wonderful thing called life.
They say you’re only as old as you feel and I want to hug the person who said that. It’s so true. You can feel miserable and depressed or you can feel amazing and love your life after 50. It’s entirely up to you.
I choose amazing and I’m totally loving my life.
Who’s up for splashing in the puddles in with me?
xo iva xo