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I remember when I first moved down to Guatemala, I used to see a lot of older men with younger women, and used to baffle me. “Why is she with him?” I used to wonder often. It wasn’t long before I started noticing that young men seemed to gravitate to me. I had to dig deep into this mystery and find out why younger men like older women.

I’ll admit, it was fun.

Dating in Your 50s is Tough

I mean seriously. No matter where you live. The dating scene for women over 50 is strugglesville. Unless you happen to meet Prince Charming at church. Well, good for you, Martha. Not all of us are that fortunate. (maybe I need to go to church more?)

It’s tough to date when you are over 50. We’re super picky now; we don’t put up with anyone’s crap, we’re free-spirited, and some of us don’t really want commitment. This is one reason why dating a younger man can be so easy.

It’s also really hard to find a good man our age who has let go of his past and is ready to move forward. Now don’t get me wrong, many women still haven’t let go of their past either. You girls need to work on that!

To be perfectly honest, and a tad serious if you will, it’s important to heal all your demons from your past and find self-love before you look for love. My two cents.

Young Women With Older Men

So here in Guatemala and many other parts of Central and Latin America, young local women seek out older ‘gringos’ men. The main reason is money. They can easily live a life of ‘luxury’ and never have to worry about starving or struggling again.

So they date old white guys. And when I say old, I mean men over 65 and 70, some even in their 80’s, with women as young as their early 20’s. But these men offer these young women stability, security, and hope for a decent future.

Men of their own culture don’t necessarily offer that. I mean, obviously, some do, but many don’t.

They don’t care what they have to do in order to be with an older man. They pay a high price in compromise and sacrifice, but to them, it’s worth it. We cannot judge as we will never understand their frustrations or struggles.

Now this only relates to younger women here in Central America. This article from Psychology Today explains why this happens in North America.

But let’s get to the topic at hand here, which is why younger men like older women.

Why Younger Men Like Older Women?

I’ll admit I was slightly baffled by this. I mean, you’re a hot young guy, what do you want with some old chick (and I use that term loosely here so don’t get your panties in a bunch)?

In my opinion, the women of Central America are uniquely gorgeous with their long silky dark hair, natural full figures, and beautiful skin. Many of them wear traditional clothing “traje” which makes them a million times more beautiful.

So why do younger men like older women, and why are the hot young guys here in Guatemala after me all the time?

What on earth do you want with an older skinny, tattooed 60-year-old woman? Seriously? So I had to ask. And I asked a few, and their answers kinda surprised me.

Here they are.

7 Reasons Why Younger Men Like Older Women

While I’m only listing 7 reasons why younger men like older women, I’m sure there are probably 7 more. Or 100 more. If you have more reasons, please feel free to drop them down below so we can totally understand this phenomenon.

At the very top of the list is…

1 Experience

Yup. Older women have lots of experience, period. We’ve clearly had a lifetime to practice. And don’t kid yourself. These young men are watching the same adult shows everyone else does, but you can be sure the women don’t.

So what does that mean?

It means the women here certainly won’t be performing any miraculous ‘deeds’ that men are fantasizing about, while chances are, we older women will.

And that’s just a fact!

They want to have great oral pleasure. They want to have steamy hot seductive sex. But mostly, they want a woman who knows what the heck she’s doing.

That’s us.

So this came in as the number one reason why younger men like older women. Interesting.

2 Teacher teacher!

One thing that comes with having a lot of experience in the bedroom (or in life, really) is that they can learn from us. I know. Creepy. But it’s true. And many older women are more than happy to “play teacher” and show them a thing or two.

I mean, let’s get real here for a minute. We all have to learn how to do everything at some point in our lives. You might as well learn from someone who has a ton of experience. No?

So if you have the patience to teach someone how to perform bedroom deeds, don’t pass up a hot young guy. Think about this for one minute. He needs to learn, and you get to show him exactly how to do it.

Sounds like a win-win to me.

3 No drama

Yup. Guys get tired of all the drama and headaches, not to mention the bull***t that follows some girls around like a lost puppy. And don’t even try to defend the female tribe here. We can be drama queens. Period. You can’t deny it.

So I was surprised to learn that one of the reasons why younger men like older women is because of this. They just don’t want chaos and drama. Can you blame them?

It surprised me a little to learn that some younger men are actually quite mature for their ages and don’t have the patience or desire to put up with some of the crap women their age dish out.

4 Party like a rockstar

This reason only applies down here, really. I mean girls up in North America can party their little hearts out, but down here? Not so much. I mean, some do and can, but the majority don’t.

It’s not in their culture for the women to go out and tie one on and then get laid. It just rarely happens.

So the next best thing, or the best thing I should say, is us. The older woman who can party like a true rockstar (ok, well, I can’t anymore, nor am I interested in doing so) and play all night. We can keep up with these hot young men like it’s nobody’s business.

(by the way, I did test this reason out, and it’s true)

This seems like a weird reason why younger men like older women but I’m just stating facts here.

5 Mother figure

Ok ok, so there’s a huge creep factor to this. I totally get that. But you know the old theory (totally independent of this entire blog) that women often date men that are just like their fathers, OR guys date women who are just like their mothers.

So. There’s that.

A lot of the young men down here never really had that nurturing mother/son bond love that so many of us in North America do. They crave that. So ya, creepy, but it’s true.

These young guys crave that love and connection and they will seek it out in older women with the added bonus that they get to ‘play’ with them.

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6 Financial security

Similar to younger women liking older men, this is another reason why younger men like older women. I hate to say it, but money def does play a huge part in it for the guys, too, not just the girls.

But it’s slightly different. The girls do it for security and stability.

The guys do it out of greed and to show off to their friends. Ya, I know. Slightly icky. But they don’t deny it either. If we turn the table around though, many women are showing off their hot young stud because, well, he’s kind of a trophy.

7 No pressure

We don’t put any pressure on them for commitment, babies, marriage, getting a job, or anything like that. We’re too old to give a crap about stuff like that. We’re just happy to have some hot young guy to hang with who keeps us young!

They don’t have to worry about us nagging (unless he’s always leaving his dirty socks or underwear on the floor) or anything like that. We are carefree and stress-free, and that’s perfect for them.

I think this is also one of the main reasons why younger men like older women. There’s little to no stress in this relationship.

An Older Women Dating a Younger Man Comes With Challenges

Listen, if you’re just dating to have fun and keep your bed warm, have at it, but if you’re an older woman dating a younger man, you need to know there will be complications. Many. Too numerous to mention in this blog post.

If you totally won the jackpot and found a young guy who can keep up with you mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and in the bedroom, well, yay you, Susan!!! Really. I’m happy for you.

But it doesn’t always work out that way. Be prepared for very awkward situations and difficulties that may not be overcome.

Now if you’re just dating a younger man for fun, well, dammit, girl, go have fun!! There’s no shame or harm to it. I remember the first time I hooked up with a 25 yr old, I felt kinda awkward and icky until, well, I didn’t feel awkward and icky anymore.

So if you’ve been thinking about hooking up with some hot young stud, now you know why younger men like older women, but be cautious of the challenges you may have to face because of it.

Young Men Seeking Older Women

If you happen to be on a dating site and you see this, younger men seeking older women, don’t back away. I mean, you only live once, so why not do it right and have some fun (or not)? At the end of the day, no one really cares what you do, and you shouldn’t either, as long as you’re enjoying life.

There are no hard fast rules in life. Do what you want, date who you want, and screw who you want. Seriously. Just be free and live with no regrets.

These 7 reasons why younger men like older women are just what I found out from my line of questioning. It’s fun to be curious, I say!

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Author: Iva Ursano

Title: Writer

Expertise: Anti-Aging, Mental Health

Iva is a 60-something woman, originally from Northern Ontario, Canada, who now resides in sunny Guatemala. She helps women over 50 love the skin they're in and empowers them to live their best lives ever. When she's not blogging, she's out on her scooter feeding and rescuing street dogs.  

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10 Comments

  1. I am quite surprised that younger men are attracted to older women, but I have been out with men 10 years younger than me. There were some challenges and that is why I am still single, the right one will come along, possibly when I least expect it.

    1. I just keep thinking the right one will come along too!! Thanx for reading and sharing your thoughts

      1. Trust me, the older you get, the more difficult it will become… I’ve been looking for 6 years now. I divorced in my mid 50’s. However, I bought a travel trailer new, and I had it hauled all over and loved the adventure. Now I am settled more or less in the mountains of North Carolina… Still looking. My Mr. Right must be out there. As long as he’s at least 55 I will be happy… I am now 76,
        but I have the mind of a 46-year-old, and my libido must be 26 maybe, on most days (laughing)… I need to feel younger and am wondering where is the man that is capable of making that happen?????
        Hummm… I am retired from teaching and carry NO baggage and have NO drama… Wanna have peace, tranquility, lots of love making and a stress-free existence…mixed with some fun and a mature man…

  2. He is 45 and I am 70. I can’t figure out what he sees in me, but what I see in him is a highly intelligent man with large feet and big hands. I can only imagine – for now – what else might be super sized. I will find out soon as our relationship is going in that direction…

  3. Great article! I think your 7 reasons and your descriptions of them are on-point. I prefer the energy of younger men and have had a few 15 to 20 years younger than I. The teacher, financier and mummy bit does make it as you say ‘icky’. Another ‘icky’ spot is when they are the same ages as your sons or even worse, sons-in-law! It’s a mind thing so when we get over that, throw the guilt aside with societal expectations, we can start to enjoy the life we deserve, however we want it.

    1. TO Bacchanal Woman: Toss aside those societal expectations dear, this is 2024. People are actually accepting the younger man with the older woman thing. Or even the younger woman/older man one… Today I don’t really think people care about what is going on or what we do… For what I know my neighbors don’t care if I am home or not, have gone to bed yet or not b/c the lights are on or off, they just don’t pay attention… They seem to have enough to do just minding their own lives and business. I just don’t think they are the old busy bodies that they used to be…GOODY GOODY GOODY!!!

  4. People could never tell how old I am so I’ve dated all mostly younger ages, and in fact my husband is thirteen years younger than me. He thought I was younger when we met and I made sure that I told him how old I was but it didn’t bother him. It bothered his family and friends though but it turned out that I have more drive and ambition than he had and now he’s disabled and looks 20 years older than me. I hate to admit it but I’m starting to look at younger guys again you never know what the future holds.

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