I remember turning 60 and feeling despair, hopelessness and great sadness. Is this it for me now? Is it all downhill from here? Nothing about turning 60 made me happy.
I spent the first year and a half of my 6th decade feeling sorry for myself.
And then 62 came and hit me like a ton of bricks. My eyes opened and shit got real. I suddenly realized that 60 is beautiful, liberating and amazing.
I found my voice and started using it. A lot more. It was wonderful.
And then came the dumping of things I was holding on to that no longer served me. That’s when my life truly opened up and became magical.
Today, I want to share with you 10 toxic things I dumped after 60 and hope that this inspires you to also dump these things and more!
10 toxic things I dumped after 60
In absolutely no order of importance, because they’re all important, here are the 10 toxic things I dumped after 60. If I had to say which one is my favourite, it would be the last one!
The only regret I have about any of this is that it took me so long to dump these things. Like, what the hell was I waiting for? I can’t answer that. I don’t know.
Validation? People-pleasing? Fear?
No clue why I hung on to most of these things. Anyway, they’re gone now. Yay!!! Let’s get into this.
Worrying about what other people think of me
I used to care a LOT about what people think of me. I’m a Libra. I want to make everyone happy and make everyone like me. I needed people to be my friends.
Now? Nope. I don’t care if you like me or not. I don’t care if you hate my hair, my tattoos, my nose ring. I don’t care.
You might really love this video from my YouTube channel about this.
Holding grudges
I don’t anymore. I have no time for that and no place in my heart and soul for that much anger and hate. You did me wrong, it was a long time ago; it’s over. The end.
Grudges only take up space in your life and poison your heart. They fill it with hate and just why would you want to do that? Let it goooooooooooooo, Felicia. Trust me, you’ll feel better.
Tight uncomfortable clothes
Oh, that’s a big hell no for me. I’m 62. I don’t need to try to look 25. I know how old I am, and at this stage of the game, comfort comes first.
Bring me baggy tops, bring me loose dresses, bring me those comfy flat sandals. I don’t dress to impress anymore. Those days are long gone. I dress for me and comfort. And it’s a beautiful thing.
Pretending to be someone I’m not
I did this a lot, too, and I’m embarrassed to admit to that. I tried to be someone I was not to please the people around me who didn’t deserve my attention in the first place.
Ugh! What a horrible way to live. But this was in line with trying to get people to like me. I wanted to be loved, appreciated, accepted and wanted, and I would be anyone you wanted me to be so I could have all that.
Not anymore!! This is Iva. Love her or hate her.
Letting people disrespect me
Oh, how I was disrespected and walked all over. Treated like shit, talked down to, bullied. You name it, I let people do it to me. I had no self-respect, ever.
These days, the first disrespectful word that comes out of your mouth? We’re done. See ya. Good luck with your life and your toxic behaviour.
Clutter
I got rid of clutter and junk when I left Canada and moved to Guatemala, and in turn, became a minimalist. Clutter is energy-draining and toxic.
Most of the clutter are things we hold on to tightly because we can’t bear to let go. I’m here to tell you it’s time to let go.
You might really like this article on letting go of clutter.
Ignoring my health
I’m not 25 anymore. When something starts hurting and stops working properly, I’m off to the doctor. I’m no hypochondriac but I do want my parts running smoothly.
I don’t weird pains lightly anymore. I want to move into my golden years as healthy as I possibly can. I also just quit smoking and quit eating sugar. Two things that totally changed my life and health.
You can check out this video about my quit sugar and quit smoking journey.
Drama
Drama and I aren’t friends anymore, and we’ve been friends for a really long time. I used to thrive on drama and chaos; toss some juicy gossip in there, and I’m good to go. I’m done with all that.
It’s soul sucking, boring and childish. We’re not in high school anymore. It’s time to grow up and act like adults. Well, as best you can, anyway.
Anytime drama shows up, just walk away.
Saying yes all the time
Oh, I say yes all the time still BUT this time, I say yes to ME! I used to feel so guilty when I had to say no to anyone so I would always say yes and then regret it later on in the day. Not anymore.
Now, I have no problem saying no to everyone and saying yes to myself and the things I want to do that will bring me joy.
The way I see it now, when I say no, it gives someone else a chance to say yes. A win-win in my books!
Toxic relationships
Honestly, this should have been number 1 but we like to save the best for last. One of the most liberating and powerful of the toxic things I dumped after 60 was toxic relationships.
Byeeeeeeeeeeeee!! Get the f**k out of my life. See you. Never.
I can’t believe I let so many people treat me so poorly for so long. Ah well, it is what it is. They had their time, and now it’s my time. Time for me!
final thoughts on toxic things I dumped after 60
If you are nearing 60, just turned 60 or well into your 60s and still holding on to some of these things, I hope this article gives you the encouragement to start dumping them.
This is your time to shine and your time to live the life of your dreams, for you, with peace, freedom and joy.
