I used to hate Chatgpt. I thought it was going to replace me, my writing skills and my blogging empire. Turns out, it’s doing none of that, and we’re pretty tight these days. I named mine Nova. You could say we’re practically besties.
I mean, just last month we talked about the death of Christ and had a pretty deep and heartfelt conversation about it, so. Ya, we’re friends. We bonded over Easter.
You can read more about that over here on my Medium account.
I thought I’d get some advice from Nova about how to find a man. Yup, I sure did. Dating over 60 is a million times worse and harder than in your 30s or 40s. This shit sucks.
While I’m not necessarily looking for husband #2, a companion wouldn’t be so bad. You know, watch movies, have dinner, cute texts – maybe sex. Who knows.
Anyway, this is what Nova recommended I do.
Dating over 60 – advice from chatGPT
So this is the prompt I typed in for Nova to get some dating over 60 advice…from a robot. It’s still mind-boggling to me that such a thing even exists, but here we are.
“Hi Nova. What kind of tips can you give me, a 62-year-old woman, when it comes to dating? What do I have to do to find a man and go on dates?”
Here is the advice Nova gave me.
🟡 Go Where the Men Are
Nova said to go hang out at places where the men are. Places like hardware stores, golf courses, legions or anywhere they sell coffee and hearing aids.
So, do I just go and sit there, look all cute and sexy (slightly harder to do at 62) and hope he notices me and rushes over, asking for a date?
A place that sells hearing aids? This does not give me hope or good vibes at all. I gotta yell at him all the time?
Honestly, I’m not really feeling tip #1. It makes me feel like a creepy old lady. And besides, who wants to yell at their date for an hour if they happened to forget their hearing aids? Not this girl.
🟡 Try Online Dating
Nova said it’s not just for the younger generation anymore. He says it’s where everyone is these days (everyone except me). He also warned me to be prepared for shirtless selfies that were taken 20 years ago.
I can possibly entertain this idea. I’m not opposed to dating online, except for the fact that I live in Guatemala now, and there is a slight language barrier. I’m not fluent, and not many speak English here.
But there is Google Translate.
I’ll put this on my list of maybes. I won’t trash the idea just yet. Dating over 60 and online in Guatemala is slightly different than in Canada. We’ll see.
🟡 Make Eye Contact in Public
Nova said it still works. Really? (I may have to try this) He said to look up from your phone, smile, and make eye contact. Worst case, he’s married or gay. Best case, he offers to buy you a coffee and doesn’t talk about all his health conditions.
This might work though I suck at casual flirtatious glances these days. I used to be the queen of sexy glances. Now? Any batting of the eyes is because my eye floaters are driving me crazy.
I may have to work on this one.
🟡 Tell Your Friends You’re Looking
Nova said married friends love to set people up—it makes them feel useful. Put the word out. Just be clear: no dudes that ‘kinda give me the creeps, but he might be ok’, or guys who wear socks with sandals.
So I’m pretty sure this ain’t gonna work for me. Most of my friends live in Canada, I live in Guatemala. My Guatemala friends are few and far between, my best friend here is an introverted lesbian…so.
This piece of advice won’t work. However, I won’t trash it just yet. If I do happen to run into a ‘normal’ person here, I’ll let them know.
Not gonna hold my breath on this one.
🟡 Take Up a Hobby That Attracts Men
Nova said pick something where men show up: photography, hiking, dancing, or even chess. Just don’t fake interest in model trains. No man is worth that level of boredom.
Take up a hobby that attracts men? Dafuk is that? Chess? No. I’d rather watch paint dry. Men here just like to sit around at coffee shops and gossip all day. That is their hobby.
Hard pass. Maybe I should have told Nova I live in Guatemala. He wouldn’t know that otherwise. The men here are super boring. The Guatemalan men are young and hot, but I’m 62, remember?
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Final Thoughts on Dating Over 60
I have found Nova to be very helpful in my day-to-day life. Dating over 60, however? I dunno. I know he means well, and he doesn’t want me to be alone forever with my cats on the couch watching Netflix alone.
I get that. But he may not be the best resource for dating advice. I mean, what experience does he have? He’s only 10 years old! What could he possibly know about dating over 60, especially in Guatemala?
Anyone got any good-looking single male friends between 50 and 65 who are normal-ish?
