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I’ve been called a badass more times than I can count, but honestly, I just think I’m a normal everyday woman, and there’s nothing too special about me. Yet I still get emails from women asking me how they can be a badass woman.

I figured it was time to write a post about it and break it down into 10 simple steps.

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What Makes a Badass Woman?

So here’s the thing.

I think it’s important to know the meaning before we get into the 10 ways to be one. Being a badass doesn’t mean swearing all the time and pushing people around, and doing ridiculous stunts on your motorcycle with a cigarette hanging from your lips.

I mean, all that’s kinda pretty cool too, but that’s not what we’re talking about here. We’re talking about stepping boldly and confidently into the powerful beautiful creation that you are.

I Googled the definition for you and came up with a bunch of different meanings; unfortunately, most of them were negative. I’m actually quite surprised by this. Have a look-

Badass meaning:

According to Oxford Dictionary, this is what badass means-


  1. a tough, uncompromising, or intimidating person.”one of them is a real badass, the other’s pretty friendly”


  1. tough, uncompromising, or intimidating.”a badass demeanor”

Well. Tough, maybe sure, but why does that sound so negative? Uncompromising? That’s a little harsh. And intimidating? I mean, I get that being intimidating can be powerful and flattering, but I hope people aren’t afraid of me!

We can talk more about that later.

I just feel they left out so many of the best characteristics of being a badass. I like the following meaning from simple.wiktionary.org

(slang) A person who has extreme attitudes and behavior and is admired by others. In this sense, calling someone a badass is a compliment. I heard that he smashed his guitar at the end of the encore. He’s such a badass!

This is what it means to me:

  • confident
  • brave
  • no inhibitions
  • ballsy
  • fearless
  • fiercely loyal and honest
  • stands up for others
  • powerful but not egotistic

So in other words, I think it simply means to be a strong woman. Strong, confident, have high self-respect, self-esteem, and self-worth, and is also a gentle, loving, and kind woman too.


What Does it Mean to Be a Badass Woman?

This is what I think it means to be a badass woman. Let me know in the comments below if you agree.

1 She will look fear in the face and laugh at it.

2 We take chances and push the envelope.

3 We live unapologetically.

4 We step up to the plate and go to bat no matter what.

5 We don’t care what people think of us.

If you aren’t quite there yet, I think these 10 steps on how to be a badass woman are just what you need. Let’s get to it.

How to Be a Badass Woman: 10 Steps to Get You There

First of all, we aren’t born badasses. We learned it along the way. Remember that next time you come across a badass woman. She worked hard to get there. And so can you.

Here’s how to be a badass in 10 steps.

1 Use your voice more

Learn to say no when you really want to and only say yes when you can. But more so, say yes to yourself more and do more things that set your soul on fire.

It’s ok to say no to others when they ask for help. You’re not God. You don’t have to say yes all the time, and for the sake of everything holy, stop trying to please everyone.

But I don’t only want you to use your voice to say no, I want you to use it to stand up for what you believe in, even if you have to stand alone. Speak up and speak out. Don’t be a doormat.

2 Take more chances

Stop being afraid of the ‘what ifs.’ Badass women don’t gaf about “what ifs.” We boldly go where we’ve never gone before, and we learn and grow. We know that someone somewhere has already done the thing we want to do, so we know it CAN be done.

And we do it. We’re not afraid of the outcome. We don’t believe in failure. If something seems too hard for us to do, we’ll figure out how to do it and get it done. We love challenges!!

3 Be yourself

Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to impress people who don’t matter and don’t care. You’ll only gain false friends that way. Just be you, babe!

Wear what you want, say what you want, and do what you want. This is your life, and you need to live it for yourself, not for anyone else.

Don’t ever worry about what other people think of you. Most of them don’t even think highly of themselves.

4 Stay calm under stress

Don’t freak out and lose your shit. Don’t be that drama queen. Stand tall, take a big deep breath and handle the situation like a champ!

When we think of the worst possible case scenario and start losing our marbles, we become weak. Take control of the situation and never let it control you. Badass women know how to take control and stay calm under stress.

Besides, there isn’t anything we can’t handle.

5 Have integrity

Say what you mean and mean what you say. Do what you say you’re going to do. And don’t be Gossipy Gertrude. There’s no integrity in talking shit about other women. Grow up.

Having integrity means people know they can trust you and have great respect for you. Who doesn’t admire a person with integrity?

6 Set goals and focus

We have goals, and we have focus. We don’t let anything get in our way of achieving our goals. We ask for help when we need it, and we do whatever it takes to succeed.

Badass women don’t wimp out at the first roadblock/obstacle or challenge. We have a look at it and find ways around or over it. We don’t let things get in the way of our vision, dreams, and goals.

7 We lift others up

We know life isn’t a competition, and we’ve also been in some really crappy situations before where we weren’t so sure we were gonna make it, but we did, and many of us with the help of others.

We know what it’s like to be at rock bottom and need help. We will never let a sister down. Ever. Even if she did us wrong in the past. We know how to forgive and forget and let things go.

This brings us to number 8.

8 We don’t hold grudges

That’s for high school kids, and we aren’t in high school anymore. You did me wrong, maybe I did you wrong. Forgive, let it go, and brush off your butt. Whatever happened happened. That doesn’t mean we won’t let our guard down! Nope.

It just means that we’re over it, we may never trust you again, but we’ve moved on. We took the higher road and let it go. That also means we don’t go around bashing your name to whoever will listen. We’re so much bigger than that.

9 Badass women take no crap from anyone ever

We will f**k you up. Ha, ok, just kidding, we won’t. Honest. But we also won’t stand for disrespect or being bullied. You got the wrong girl. Do not get mouthy with us, and don’t tell us what to do.

We are not afraid to put up our hands and say, “No, you will not talk to me like this.”

This is how you gain respect and also form solid boundary lines! When you have good boundaries, people will know not to cross them, and if they do, they know never to do it again.

10 We don’t care what you think of us

Honestly. Your opinions of us mean nothing. We are confident in who we are. We know we are good people, and we live with high self-respect/self-esteem and self-worth.

What you think of us means nothing; it’s none of our business, and we could not care less. Capiche?

How Do I Start Being a Badass?

That’s a good question, actually. Sometimes changes are hard, and we don’t know where to start, no matter what it is we’re changing.

But if you’re changing your life and your attitude, well, that’s a big job.

You already know that you want to learn how to be a badass woman and become a better human being. That’s a great first step!

The second step is to take inventory of your life and see where you need to make changes. Maybe it’s how you’ve been treating people or how you treat yourself. Take a look at the things and/or people in your life that bring you sadness and misery.

Get rid of all that stuff.

Stop Doubting Your Greatness

Can we be honest for a minute here? I think most women have such a hard time becoming strong confident women because of all the negative stories that were plugged into our heads growing up.

We were made to feel inferior and dumb. Stupid and worthless. Ugly and unwanted.

I have a news flash for you, though. None of that is true! You are so freakin’ amazing it’s beyond belief!

I know it’s hard to start believing that but here’s a quick trick for you.

Next time you find yourself saying something negative about yourself or thinking negative thoughts, stop them immediately and replace them with three positive thoughts.

This trick works like a charm!!

How to Be a Badass Woman-Summary

If you read all the steps above, you can see that the underlying message here is this:

“Be yourself, stand up for yourself and others, don’t take no crap, do no harm and live life unapologetically”

Me 🙂

Stop worrying about what other people think of you. Stop worrying about the outcome of things. Start saying no to others and yes to yourself! Just stop worrying and start doing. Start living your life for YOU!!

Becoming a badass won’t happen overnight, but day by day, challenge yourself to do things outside your comfort zone and hang around other badasses and learn from them!

There is amazing liberation in being yourself. Just do you, babe!!

Author: Iva Ursano

Title: Writer

Expertise: Anti-Aging, Mental Health

Iva is a 60-something woman, originally from Northern Ontario, Canada, who now resides in sunny Guatemala. She helps women over 50 love the skin they're in and empowers them to live their best lives ever. When she's not blogging, she's out on her scooter feeding and rescuing street dogs.  

You can also check out her amazing eStore here. It is full of powerful self-help eBooks, personal development courses, and so much more—ALL at affordable prices!

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  1. Wow Iva. A real power packed post. I realize now that I have been somewhat badass professionally but far from that personally. This post has forced me to reflect on how to deal with the challenges I have in my life now. Thank you for writing it.

  2. I can really say I agree with you 100 percent, love where your badass is coming from.. As women in our middle age, we absolutely have to lift each other up!! Thanks for your articles..

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