Before we dive into this blog you have to know one thing. I created this site for badass women around the world. To cheer you on, lift you up, encourage and empower you and for us to all come together in our bravery and badassery. If you feel you’re not quite there yet, then this blog is for you!
Today I want to dive deeper into what being a badass really is and how to be a badass woman so you, in turn, can help other women become badass too!!
I seriously just love that word and want to say it a million times a day. 🙂
I think it’s important to know the meaning of badass before we get into this guide ’cause maybe you don’t want to be a badass woman after all ( I shudder). Being a badass doesn’t mean swearing all the time and pushing people around and doing ridiculous stunts on your motorcycle with a cigarette hanging from your lips.
I mean, all that’s kinda badass too but that’s not what we’re talking about here. We’re talking about stepping boldly and confidently into the powerful beautiful creation that you are.
I Googled the definition for you and came up with a bunch of different meanings, unfortunately, most of them negative. I’m actually quite surprised by this. Have a look-
According to Oxford Dictionary this is what badass means-
- a tough, uncompromising, or intimidating person.”one of them is a real badass, the other’s pretty friendly”
- tough, uncompromising, or intimidating.”a badass demeanor”
Well. Tough maybe sure but why does that sound so negative? Uncompromising? That’s a little harsh. And intimidating? I mean, I get that being intimidating can be powerful and flattering but I hope people aren’t afraid of me! We can talk more about that later.
I just feel they left out so many of the best characteristics of being a badass. I like the following badass meaning from simple.wiktionary.org
(slang) A person who has extreme attitudes and behavior and is admired by others. In this sense, calling someone a badass is a compliment. I heard that he smashed his guitar at the end of the encore. He’s such a badass!
This is what it means to me to be a badass:
- no inhibitions
- fiercely loyal and honest
- stands up for others
- powerful but not egotistic
These are just a few of the words that come to mind when I describe a badass person.
What does it mean to be badass women?
This is what I think it means to be badass women. Let me know in the comments below if you agree.
Badass women look fear in the face and laugh at it. We take chances and push the envelope. We live unapologetically. We step up to the plate and go to bat no matter what. We don’t care what people think of us.
There’s just so much more to this I could probably write a book about this. Until I do though, you might want to check out Jen Sincero’s You Are a Badass collection. She’s da bomb! (affiliate link-disclosure here)
If you aren’t quite there yet, I think this ultimate guide to becoming a badass woman is just what you need. Let’s get to it.
How to be a Badass-The Ultimate Guide!
First of all, we aren’t born being badasses. We learned it along the way. Remember that next time you come across a badass woman. She worked hard to get there. And so can you.
Here’s how…I’m gonna break this down into 10 simple steps
1 Use your voice more
Learn to say no when you really want to and only say yes when you can. But more so, say yes to yourself more and do more things that set your soul on fire.
It’s ok to say no to others when they ask for help. You’re not God. You don’t have to say yes all the time and for the sake of everything holy, stop trying to please everyone.
But I don’t only want you to use your voice to say no, I want you to use it to stand up for what you believe in, even if you have to stand alone. Speak up and speak out. Don’t be a doormat.
2 Take more chances
Stop being afraid of the ‘what ifs’. Badass women don’t gaf about “what ifs”. We boldly go where we’ve never gone before and we learn and grow. We know that someone somewhere has already done the thing we want to do so we know it CAN be done.
And we do it. We’re not afraid of the outcome. We don’t believe in failure. If something seems too hard for us to do we’ll figure out how to do it and get it done. We love challenges!!
3 Be yourself
Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to impress people who don’t matter and don’t care. You’ll only gain false friends that way. Just be you babe!
Wear what you want, say what you want, do what you want. This is your life and you need to live it for you, not for anyone else. Don’t ever worry about what other people think of you. Most of them don’t even think highly of themselves.
4 Stay calm under stress
Don’t freak out and lose your shit. Don’t be that drama queen. Stand tall, take a big deep breath and handle the situation like a champ!
When we think of the worst possible case scenario and start losing our marbles, we become weak. Take control of the situation and never let it control you. Badass women know how to take control and stay calm under stress.
Besides, there isn’t anything we can’t handle.
5 Have integrity
Say what you mean and mean what you say. Do what you say you’re going to do. And don’t be Gossipy Gertrude. There’s no integrity in talking shit about other women. Grow up.
Having integrity means people know they can trust you and have great respect for you. Who doesn’t admire a person with integrity?
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6 Set goals and focus
We have goals and we have focus. We don’t let anything get in our way of achieving our goals. We ask for help when we need it and we do whatever it takes to succeed.
Badass women don’t wimp out at the first road block/obstacle or challenge. We have a look at it and find ways around or over it. We don’t let things get in our way of our vision, dreams and goals.
7 We lift others up
We know life isn’t a competition and we’ve also been in some really shitty situations before where we weren’t so sure we were gonna make it but we did and many of us with the help of others.
We know what it’s like to be at rock bottom and need help. We will never let a sister down. Ever. Even if she did us wrong in the past. We know how to forgive and forget and let things go. Which brings us to number 8.
8 We don’t hold grudges
That’s for high school kids and we aren’t in high school anymore. You did me wrong, maybe I did you wrong. Forgive, let it go and brush off your butt. Whatever happened happened. That doesn’t mean we won’t let our guard down! Nope.
It just means that we’re over it, we may never trust you again, but we’ve moved on. We took the higher road and let it go. That also means we don’t go around bashing your name to whoever will listen. We’re so much bigger than that.
9 Badass women take no crap from anyone ever
We will f**k you up. Ha ok just kidding we won’t. Honest. But we also won’t stand for disrespect or being bullied. You got the wrong girl. Do not get mouthy with us and don’t tell us what to do.
We are not afraid to put up our hands and say “No you will not talk to me like this”. This is how you gain respect and also form solid boundary lines! When you have good boundaries, people will know not to cross them and if they do they know never to do it again.
You might really like this eBook I wrote recently on How to Form Solid Boundary Lines so people will respect you more.
10 We don’t care what you think of us
Honestly. Your opinions of us mean nothing. We are confident in who we are. We know we are good people and we live with high self respect/self esteem and self worth.
What you think of us means nothing, it’s none of our business, and we could not care less. Capiche?
Summary of how to be a badass
If you read all the steps above you can see that the underlying message here is this:
“Be yourself, stand up for yourself and others, don’t take no shit, do no harm and live life unapologetically”
Stop worrying about what other people think of you. Stop worrying about the outcome of things. Start saying no to others and yes to you! Just stop worrying and start doing. Start living your life for YOU!!
Becoming a badass won’t happen overnight but day by day, challenge yourself to do things outside your comfort zone and hang around other badasses and learn from them!
There is amazing liberation in being yourself. Just do you, babe!!