In case you missed the memo, life really does start at 50. You’re welcome. Today I want to talk to you a bit about how to change your life at 50 so you can finally be happy and live the life you have always wanted to live. Grab your coffee or wine and let’s go!
I wrote a similar blog awhile back about how to start over at 50 and it’s a pretty popular one, that garnered a shit ton of attention and comments so it’s safe for me to assume that there are so many over 50 peeps trying to change their life. Yay!! I’m pretty happy about that actually.
Here’s the other blog:
That one talks about how to start over with no money and no job and sweet piss all. Like when you hit rock bottom and you gotta climb your way out but this time you’re over 50 and it’s not so easy. Today I wanna talk about changing your life at 50 but in different ways. Like the more personal, spiritual and emotional side of you.
I want to discuss things like:
- finding your voice and using it
- dumping all the toxic people in your life
- embracing change, and
- so much more!
Changing your life at 50
I have to say that changing your life at any age can be somewhat terrifying but changing your life at 50, well it’s a tad less terrifying and more liberating, to be perfectly honest. You start doing things you’ve always wanted to do just never really had the balls to do OR you were so busy making everyone else happy that your own happiness took the back burner. Amirite?
For many of us women over 50, we’ve just left our husbands/partners, some of us after many many years (yay you babe!!) and we’re trying to find ourselves, as cliché as that sounds, that’s exactly what we’re doing. We’ve spent the first part of our lives pleasing everyone else and doing what they, and society, wanted and expected from us.
Well we ain’t doing that shit anymore!!!
This is a great article from washingtonpost.com about women changing their lives in big bold ways!
Here we are now alone, we have our own place and our own identity. But what makes us tick? So many of us are still trying to figure that out. I’m gonna help you with that now.
You might enjoy this video from my YouTube channel Women Blazing Trails. Take a few minutes to watch and see if it resonates with you and how many “oh ya girl, I get you” moments you have. Don’t forget to hit the subscribe button while you’re there.
Finding purpose in life after 50
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard women say “I’m having a hard time finding purpose in life after 50” or “how do I find my purpose in life?”. First of all I have to say that ‘finding your purpose’ is overrated. People read too much into this phrase.
What I want you to find is things that make your heart sing, things that bring you a tremendous amount of joy and things that make you excited to get out of bed every morning. I want you to find things that put a skip back in your step and a smile on your face.
Is that how you know you’ve found your purpose? I don’t have the answer to that but I do know that that’s how you know you’ve found freedom in living your life the way YOU want to live it. And to me, that’s finding your purpose in life after 50. Everything that is meant for you will show up for you at that moment and thereafter.
How to change your life for the better
Let’s get real for a minute. If you’re gonna take the time to start making life changes I can only assume and hope that you are changing your life for the better, no? I mean, I could be wrong but the alternative seems kinda ridiculous. Yet still so many people want to know how to change your life for the better and here’s what I have to say about that:
Dump everything and everyone in your life if they make you anything other than happy.
Ok so that sounds kind of radical for lack of better words but hear me out. You are at a stage in your life now where you are questioning
- who you are,
- why you do the things you do,
- why some people are still in your life,
- how you put up with bullshit for so long, and
- who the fuck am I?
You’re not here reading this because your life is full of joy and bliss and everything is grand. Nope. You’re here because you’re probably miserable, frustrated and sad and you need to change your life. So those questions and many more are going through your mind over and over again.
It really is a matter of taking time to sit down and take inventory of your life. That’s what I had to do and what a game changer, or should I say life changer, that was for me. I realized so many things that I had been doing that were making me unhappy and it opened my eyes to the things, and people, that needed to go.
So if you really want to know how to change your life for the better, look for all the things and people in your life that are robbing you of your joy. Start there!
How to change your life completely
Now if you’re ready and looking for a major life overhaul then I love you! Ha! I mean I love you anyway but yay you for being so ballsy and brave that you’re ready to change your life completely.
The video above tells my story of how I completely reinvented my entire life and honestly it will blow your mind BUT what I truly want you to get from that video is this message:
If I can do it, so can you!
And I’m sorry I know that too sounds so cliché but it’s so true. This is coming from a girl who lived her entire life in Northern Ontario Canada where nothing and no one ever changes and life just goes on. This is coming from a girl who is afraid of her own shadow and hates being alone.
I overhauled my life, by myself and, well just watch the video!
Is it possible to completely change your whole life? You bet! It’s scary, it will take awhile, some things will shock you and make you want to stop and go back. Just keep plowing forward with persistence and patience. Throw in a dash of determination and you got the life by the balls babe!
How to change your life in 6 not so easy, but doable, steps
So I want to get right to the point here and show you how to change your life, in every way shape and form possible. It’s not always going to be easy, you will cry many times, you will shout in glee more times than you cry (or your tears may turn into happy tears) and you will feel liberation like you’ve never felt before.
Let’s do it.
1 Dump the toxic people in your life
All of them. If it’s your boss or your spouse, well, get rid of ’em. And don’t say “oh sure Iva it’s easy for you to say” YES it is easy for me to say because I fucking did it. And if I can do it so can you. You can need to eliminate the people in your life who are causing you grief? Why on earth do you want them in your life? That makes no sense. Dump ’em!
2 Use your voice more
Like seriously practice raising your voice a little and saying “NO”. Practice talking and listening to the sound of your voice saying things that bring you joy and don’t make you sad or angry. Learn how to say “YES” to yourself. Practice telling people you are no longer free to be disrespected or a verbal punching bag to their anger. Say yes to adventure and no to dull boring routine.
3 Chase your dreams
What are some of the things you’ve longed to do for so long but never had the chance to do (and now you do)? What lights your heart on fire when you think about it? Every one of us has a dream that we put on the backburner for some reason and never chased or followed through with it. Do it now.
4 Do something alone that terrifies you
This is the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done in my life. Doing something alone that terrifies me. I packed up my entire life, bought a one way ticket to Guatemala and off I went, alone, with no clue what the fuck I was doing. Yup. That was almost 6 years ago and I look back now and just think “wow-that was fucking crazy and I did it!”. That’s the feeling you want.
5 Change careers
Yes I get that sounds totally ridiculous and impossible but I’m here to tell you it’s neither. It’s totally doable and so much friggin fun. Hard, but rewarding. I know this because I did it. I traded in a 25+ yr career as a hairstylist and became a freelance writer and now a website owner. So ya, you can do it. It’s up to you to create the life that gets you excited to get out of bed in the morning.
6 Do something that brings you great joy!
Go and do something you’ve always wanted to do just never had the chance. Skydiving, surfing, traveling alone, karaoke, have sex with a 21 yr old, whatever!! You have been stifled and suppressed for so long now, it’s time for you. Go chase the things that will bring you great joy and finally do them. Yeehaw!!!!
Life after 50
You now have the freedom to create the life you want to live for you, not for anyone else. People who love you will understand. Those who don’t understand may or may not figure it out and that’s ok. You don’t have to apologize for being yourself and how you live your life.
Life after 50 can either be shitty or totally exhilarating and liberating. It’s entirely up to you.
Before I forget and sign off I want to share my mini self help eBook collection with you from my sister site. Please take a look and see what book resonates with you and grab it! Click here to see all the books or the image below.
Now you know how to change your life at 50-go do it!!
I told you it was gonna be scary (wait, did I?) and I told you that you will have to do big bad brave ballsy things. Please do it anyway. I want you to take a good long hard look at the last 50 something years you’ve been living and that will remind you why you’re on this blog in the first place.
Yes, changing your life after 50 will come with a ton of challenges and losses. You will lose people, you will lose the old you, you will be faced with fear and will have to conquer it. You are stepping into a totally new you and it’s gonna feel super awkward and weird many times throughout your changes.
Just make them. Do yourself a favour and STOP living for everyone else and START living for YOU!! Remember nothing changes if nothing changes. It’s up to you to create the life you want, desire and deserve.
You so got this babe!
xo iva xo