63 Years – 20 Regrets

I have to be honest; I’ve lived a pretty full and vibrant life. I’ve done a lot and seen a lot. But I do have a few regrets.

Ok, well, 20. Off the top of my head, here are the 20 biggest regrets in life. I don’t sit and feel sorry for myself because I never did any of these things, so no sympathy or lectures, please. Just thought I’d share these with you.

But, if you’re still really young and healthy and reading my regrets in life, I hope that this will encourage you to live your life to the fullest so you don’t end up with too many regrets in life.

Take risks, say yes more to life, say no more to soul-sucking people, dance to the beat of your own drum…you get the idea. This is your one and only life. Live out loud.

20 Biggest Regrets in Life From a 63-Year-Old Woman

I’d love to know what some of your biggest regrets in life are. Feel free to drop them down below in the comments.

In no particular order of importance, here we go.

Not telling more people to Eff off

Honestly, this really is number 1. And really, there are only two people, no, wait, three people on the planet I would have liked to have told to “F off” to. Now, I know you’ll say, “Well, Iva it’s not too late to do that!”. It kind of is because I’m a changed person, and that’s not really my style anymore. I just wish I had told them sooner!

Not using my voice more

I got bullied and taken advantage of so much in my life. I was always desperately looking for friends and love at any cost. I let people do mean things to me. I wish I had learned to say no sooner.

Not believing in myself more

I didn’t start doing this until a few years ago, like when I turned 52. Pathetic, but still, at least I have some self-confidence now, so there’s that.

Going sky-diving

I seriously should have done this a long time ago. I don’t have the balls I used to have, so this is officially off my bucket list. Ah, well, I did go zip-lining, though, so there’s that adrenaline rush.

Have more kids

I never really planned for parenthood, but I was set on only having one kid. And don’t get me wrong, I have the best kid on the planet, but I feel I should have had one more.

Not knowing how to save money

I’ve never been taught, and still, to this day, I’m slightly clueless about budgeting and saving money. I’m working on it, though. Bit by bit. But I wouldn’t be a broke-ass bitch today if I knew how 30 years ago.

Forgive more people sooner

I didn’t start my healing journey until well into my 50s. I wish I had started sooner, though. I would have had a lot less hate in my heart and more love. Ah well. It’s never too late, I say!

Spending more time with my kid

Trust me when I tell you I am NOT winning any mother of the year awards. Ever. I think I was a pretty shitty mom, to be honest. I could have been way better. My kid still insists I was the best mom ever, though. 🥰

Not going on more roller coasters

So this is kind of the same as the sky-diving thing. It’s too late, I’m too old and not interested anymore, but I wish I had gone on the big huge motherfucking goliaths when I was younger.

I didn’t start my online business sooner

For real. I wish I had learned all this stuff 10 years ago. I’d be retired by now. Or maybe even a multi-millionaire or something. Who knows? Def farther along than I am now.

I wish I had never smoked

Though I have been smoke-free for almost one year now, I still wish I had never even started smoking. Any smoker will tell you that. It’s the worst addiction ever.

Not graduating from high school

I’m still kinda embarrassed by this, and don’t ask why. I have no clue. Though I do think education is slightly overrated, I still wish I had at least graduated high school and maybe even gone to prom.

Learning a second language sooner

Like, I probably should have learned Italian or Spanish. The latter would have helped me a lot in a Central American country. I think everyone should learn a second language.

Not leaving my ex sooner

I could have started a way better life WAY sooner if only I had mustered up the courage to leave him sooner. I had no confidence and no self-esteem, so I was sure I couldn’t. Until I realized I could.

Travelling more

Or maybe I wish I had started that sooner, too. I still do travel, but I feel my travelling days are coming to an end soon, and there are so many places I didn’t get to go, which makes me sad. But maybe there’s still hope.

Words left unsaid

There are a few people who have passed on that I’m sure I should have made peace with or spent more time with before they died. I’m sad I’ll never have the chance.

Learn how to do more things

Things like sewing or speaking another language, cooking Italian food, knitting, maybe, or skating, swimming, or driving a standard car. Little things like that. It’s not too late to do any of those; it just takes longer, and it’s harder when you’re older.

Having more self-respect

I have lots now, but growing up, I had none. I let people treat me the way they wanted to, however it suited them. I desperately tried to make everyone happy but me.

Been a better friend/sister/daughter

I just think I could have been nicer to people, like my dad, whom I hated with every ounce of me. I could have been nicer to him in his last days. I think I could have ‘been there’ more for the important people in my life.

Not dumping toxic people sooner

I hung on to toxic people because I desperately wanted everyone to like me, and I let people treat me poorly so they would like me. So dumb.

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What’s on your list of regrets?

I’d love to see what things you regret not doing sooner or at all. While I do love my life and think I have done a lot and come a long way, I just wonder if I could have done more and gone further.

What about you?

ox iva xo